Well, that got your attention, didn’t it? Instead of talking about the delightfulness of this popular erotic tale (which I admit I haven’t read), this entry is all about going gray, as in hair color. It’s a fairly taboo subject, too, come to think of it.

A couple of years ago I decided to stop coloring my hair, mainly because of the upkeep, but more so because I wondered how it would look. Would it be salt and pepper gray? Pure white? A mix of colors? Would the texture be straight or frizzy? How long would it take to grow out? I also began to notice older women with gray hair at library conferences. There were lots of different colors, textures, and styles, from very chic to blah.

While I’ve never walked up to anyone and asked about why they decided to go natural (maybe I should), I often wonder about they came to that conclusion. People have volunteered their own opinions about hair color, though. Some say they will color their hair for as long as they can, i.e., “My students will think I’m old if I go gray.” “I’m not ready to give up and let myself go.” Others say they’re fine with going natural, and embrace it with new hairstyles, or just cut it short and call it a day.

If you do decide to go natural (or keep coloring your hair), as you get older be aware that changes in hormonal levels due to menopause, diet, or illness can result in:

• The texture of your hair changing, often becoming more coarse and curly
• Hair starting to thin out, with slower growth (there is female pattern baldness, too)
• Hair that is dry and hard to manage

If you already have a good stylist, ask her/him about the best ways to keep your hair looking good. A professional cut is important, but doesn’t have to cost a fortune. If you see a style you like on someone, ask them where they got their hair cut, or look online at hairstyles that appeal to you, and show them to a stylist. If you are basically a low-maintenance person when it comes to hair, there are lots of wash & wear styles you can try, and of course, if you don’t like a particular style, you can always try something new! As for me, I’m really glad I decided to quit coloring my hair and let nature take its course. I was born with auburn hair that grew darker as I got older, but my hair now has red, gold, and gray all mixed together, and it will probably be all white in a few years. I also have lots of it, so I get it trimmed and textured every few weeks.

Graying hair can make you look washed out, so if you do wear makeup, you might want to adjust and brighten your look. I’m a fan of Bobbi Brown cosmetics because many of her products are aimed at women with older skin. Go to the makeup counter at a department store and ask for help and a makeover if they can do it. It’s fun and doesn’t cost you anything until you decide to purchase all or some of the stuff they recommend. (I usually go for the more expensive blush and eye shadow because they tend to last a lot longer than most drugstore products, but I stick with Maybelline and Revlon for mascara and powder.) If you don’t wear makeup, try a skin care regimen specifically formulated for older and more delicate skin. What worked in your 20s and 30s may not work for you now.

In closing, the most important thing is to have confidence in, and own your look. Whether you decide to go natural or keep coloring your hair, try to keep a positive outlook in mind and body.

I’d love to hear what you have to say on this subject!

Here are some links you might find helpful and  interesting. I especially love Advanced Style – these women and men are fabulous.

The Gray Hair Bible

Going Gray with Style

Advanced Style

Submitted by Alex Simons